How many times a day do you complain outloud? How about silently in your mind? Stop and consider: What does complaining do for us?
This is something worthwhile for all of us to consider. If complaining serves no purpose except for creating or continuing negativity, then let’s remove it from our lives. It reminds me of the quote about forgiveness... “Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” In the same way, complaining is reacting to an unfavorable situation, and compounding it.
When a ref makes a bad call and a player complains about it, the ref never changes their mind, and the player is less focused on the next best action. If someone cuts me off in traffic, and I complain and yell, it does nothing to solve my problem! It only makes me more agitated and probably a worse driver. When you don’t get what you want, and you choose to complain, you fail to look inward at your controllables in the situation and instead focus on blaming something external.
Find a way to avoid complaining today!
And here’s your 2019 One Shining Moment...
It’s the eve of the final weekend of March Madness. The Final Four. I don’t have a dog in the fight, but I cannot help but be drawn in by the storylines and makeup of the teams left. On the men’s side, the season Virginia is having is something to talk about.
Take it back to March 2018. Everyone remembers it. UMBC upsets Virginia (a 20 point win). A 16 seed beating a 1 seed for the first.time.in.history. The embarrassment, shock, and disbelief for Virginia players and coaches was palpable even for the casual fan…one seeds were 135-0 vs 16 seeds. They had to fly back to Charlottesville and regroup.
The Virginia men’s team worked through the embarrassment in the spring and summer, determined to put themselves in a position for a tournament run in 2019. They grinded out a 16-2 ACC record, (note only one road loss at Duke), and they entered the NCAA tournament a one seed once more. Now they are Final Four bound, the first time UVA has been since 1984.
I tell that background to get to the real meat of this post. Adversity led them here. This group went through a really tough thing in the national spotlight last year. (One article quoted “Cavaliers became a national punch line; they received death threats and needed a police escort to return to the hotel following the UMBC loss.”) They struggled and grew from it, they let it motivate and push them. Coach Tony Bennett said “It stung. It was a painful gift. It drew our team closer.” They learned to be resilient through the pain.
Bennett told his guys before this season, “If you learn to use it right (the adversity), it will buy you a ticket to a place you couldn’t have gone any other way.” Here they are, on their way to the Final Four. How could you not root for that? Maybe UVA will make history again this year.
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