This is one of my favorite quotes and is so important to share with young people. Growing up in sports, school, and social life, everything seems like it is based on comparing where and who you are to others. But what wisdom and maturity teaches you is that the only comparison you need is with yourself yesterday, and that you are growing and getting better.
Everyone has a different path. Comparing where you are in your career, your craft, or your life to another is like apples to oranges, so don’t waste time getting caught up in the emotions it brings. Each person brings different gifts, and the most important thing to accomplish is maximizing those gifts as an individual. You are the only “you”!
We cannot be completely ourselves and happy with who we are if we are constantly comparing to others. But if we love ourselves and acknowledge our growth, our joy can grow and we can thrive. Give a quick scan of your mindset when it comes to your relationships, your job, your life stage, and your health, and make sure you compare to yesterday, not to others. This will set you up for success!
Listen to Coach K talk about comparison holding you back:
What do you do if you get into a shooting slump during your season? Shooters shoot right? So besides continuing to find your open shots in games, what can you do to prepare and be confident when your field goal percentage drops?
-Get in the gym. Do a little extra work by yourself and make shots. Form shooting and putting up shots in an empty gym will reset your mechanics and lift your confidence so you feel good about being a shot maker again.
-Visualize your performance. Close your eyes and literally play the game out in your head the night before. Play your best game and see yourself making shots from all your game spots.
-Create some easy buckets. Confidence is a tricky thing, and you will build it in a game with some easy shots that go through the net. Get to the rim at the start of the game, get to the free throw line, and attack the offensive glass for some easy put backs. Now the jump shot will feel lighter.
-Self talk is key. Great shooters have a short memory when they miss. They are always future focused, ready for the next shot. Play within your skill set and your teams’ offensive game plan, but stay ready to hit the next open shot. Tell yourself you are a great shooter and that you are going to make every shot you take. Believe in yourself and tell yourself that you believe!
Go get buckets.
To live a truly happy life with others, we should practice having an abundance mindset. Knowing the difference between a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset is critical, and then training yourself to build these habits will boost your relationships, your teamwork, and your happiness.
Scarcity mindset says there will never be enough and the pie will only get smaller with others, and therefore we should hoard information, compassion, and compliments. Having an abundance mindset means we believe in sharing, we see win-win with others, and there will always be more.
Scarcity mindset will make you pessimistic, suspicious of others, entitled, and fearful. Abundance mindset will open you up to working with others to create great things, building trust more easily, growing, and building others up.
Here are some ways to compare the scarcity vs abundance framework:
Want those around you to succeed, and know that it doesn’t take away from what you are doing. The abundance mindset can be applied in each area of your life. Work for more together...
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